The things I've learned transforming from skinny to strong:
People will always use the words, tiny, skinny, small, weak, but don't take offense to it, because in my mind I know I could kick their ass at an arm wrestle any day.
Create strength goals not size goals
I will be able to do 20 regular pushups by October 31st
I will be able to do 10 unassisted pull-ups by October 31st
Make it a lifestyle not a restricted diet
Okay, so it has 20 grams of sugar, so what? If you're not eating poorly every single day, and your working to improve every single day, striving toward goals every single day, you're allowed to enjoy life and splurge on a brownie or ice cream!
My body is unlike any other
I will never look like another girl, I will never be able to rightly compare myself to another human. My genetics are different then every other person. With this conclusion I have realized, obtaining physical attributes comes easier for some people. Some women were born with abdominals that are more defined and/or structured differently. Genetics play a huge role, so don't compare and get down on yourself for not looking like another human. You are you!
It's okay to YoYo
I have had abs followed by a layer of fat. This just means I've been more focused on other aspects of life than maintaining a strict diet. I am ALWAYS striving to reach goals, I ALWAYS maintain my workout schedule, but sometimes life gets crazy and you're not as focused. To me, YoYo'ing means for a stretch of time I was at my peak, physically I had my dream body and felt incredibly strong. Then for a stretch of time I relax on my diet a LITTLE bit, meaning I treat myself and don't dwell on the extra carbs or sweets, and I jump around on my workout programs to mix things up a bit. Typically during this time I don't look how I'd love to look physically, but I'm still just as strong, still getting stronger and I'm at a point where getting back into the strict routine won't be hard.
People will always cast judgements on what you're doing and how you look
Many times I'm too skinny, other times I'm told I gained a little bit of fluff. This could be due to the YoYo, depend on the time of year (or the time of month), or often it's at a point where I'm testing different nutrition plans to see what works for me. I've been told my body looks like a little boy, I don't need to workout because I'm already skinny, I don't have weight to lose so I don't understand.. I've heard it all.
It's difficult in a different kind of way to go from skinny to strong than it is from overweight to fit. I'm not saying it's harder or easier, I'm just saying it's different and most people probably won't experience both realms. I have been learning to be sensitive of both perspectives and ignore the judgement's casted on my body by people who are striving for overweight to fit and not skinny to strong.
My diet is EVERYTHING
It needs to be full. It needs to be nutritious. Not eating enough is detrimental to your strength & muscle growth. Eating too much crap is detrimental to everything. Create a plan, adapt that plan several times, and correspond your plan with your workouts. If you need help with this reach out to me!
Don't go to the gym aimlessly and hope to grow a booty, loose a layer of fat, and get a six pack. You need to have a program that is structured so you know what you're doing each day, it progressively get's harder, and you OVERLOAD. When I was aimlessly going to the REC at school I plateaued and stayed there for months. Getting on the 21 Day FIX program pushed me to my limits, and gave my body something it wasn't use to.